I have a lot of wealthy and accomplished pals who want to make a family and live what were historically considered normal lives. They all want trad-wives who will raise their high-IQ high-achieving offspring. These are smart guys, capable of building businesses, new technologies. Most of them are somewhere between very well off and stinking rich.  These guys are even redpilled and understand hypergamy. They know how to sell themselves. Yet they seem completely unable to make sensible decisions or look at the actually existing trade-offs involved in marrying an actual woman. I try to give them good advice: marriage is basically the same thing as a business decision, and all business decisions involve tradeoffs.

Despite being good at business, these guys are bad at reality, seeing marriage through some sentimental haze. In reality land, actual women have their own personal histories, agendas and drawbacks, most of which they’ve gotten from television and their whore friends. You might in fact find yourself a good wife; she might be intensely boring or tedious in some way. She might be homely or absolutely terrible at sex.

These guys mostly know the rudimentary facts: Find a woman who doesn’t hate her dad. Don’t date a psychologist, a forensic pathologist, a lawyer, an obvious lunatic, or, say, an “online influencer,” a stripper or other kinds of prostitute. Some of them even value admirable and rare female traits, such as loyalty, cooperativeness and at least the ability to fake a pleasant personality. Yet they’re drawn like flies to women who are bad for them, just as many women are drawn to men who spin up their hamster wheel because the men don’t actually give a shit.

Engineers know that actual objects made out of matter, such as women, consist in a series of trade offs. I can’t have a 400mm aperture refractor telescope that weighs 20lbs. There’s no such thing as a car that runs on water and folds up into a small briefcase. Yet many accomplished men will assume they can get the impossible woman who has never existed in the corporeal world. We all laugh at the women who want a 23 year old who is 6’4” looksmaxed and makes a half million bucks a year: People should laugh more at unrealistic male expectations. There are obvious categories of women existing in the contemporary world. Here I list a fairly complete set, leaving out various categories of obvious lunatics and sociopaths:

Trad wife. These actually exist; I go to church with many of them.  On the upside, she is actually a trad wife. Downsides, she’s a religious fanatic, and you and all your friends are going to be religious fanatics as well if you want to keep her around. Since people apparently need to be told: you’re not getting any more weird non-procreative sex, you filthy modernist degenerate. If you are, she’s just roleplaying as a trad wife. I assume these come with a decent likelihood of frigidity, but it’s impossible to check without actually marrying one: Schrodinger’s pussy. Might be a shrewish trad wife: You have to figure that out in advance. For a notable example: Socrates had a trad wife, one decades younger than him. She was legendary for her shrewish nature: She made him miserable enough, he sent her away before his execution so he could have a pleasant conversation with his friends before his death.

Normie woman. Upsides: She probably has a normal female emotional range for whatever culture she comes from. Downsides: her dumb-whore/gay friends are going to be more important than you are for the first decade at least—probably forever. No matter who you are, they’ll think you’re a loser for ending up with them. Also: your new hobby is you’re going to watch “her shows” with her. Intensely boring. Probably can only orgasm while using a vibration device, forget about sex after the kids show up. Will probably take half your shit unless you met her in high school. Probably your best bet. Notable examples: Josephine Bonaparte.

Girl boss. Many normie women think of themselves as girl bosses, but the real ones are in some kind of high status occupation. Upsides: If she has enough money, she probably can’t take half your shit. In fact you may be able to take half her shit. If she’s not a psychopath she probably has really good relationship-problem-solving skills, because most business is solving relationship problems. Downside, you will have to be good at negotiations or get good at following orders. You’re probably going to end up in an open relationship, and she might be a psychopath. Notable example: Sheryl Sandberg, whose husband died in a mysterious Mexican treadmill accident.

“Reformed” whore: Goth chicks, retired porn stars, expats, models, football gangbang enjoyers, political activists, Instagram influencers, yoga instructors, most unmarried women at Church. Upsides: Probably awesome sex, likely more fun in general. Downsides: Will probably get fish-lip plastic surgeries at some point, all your friends think she’s awesome at sex too. Might be insane; definitely going to take half your shit. Might also be sterile. Notable examples: One of the richest men on earth recently wifed one of these up after spending most of his life with the normiest of normie woman.

Artist. Usually the rich dudes go after models who, if they’re not reformed whores, may fall into this category. Overlooked are other kinds of artists. Oboe players, opera singers, piano teachers. Upsides: may play nice music for you; probably higher IQ than the girl boss. Usually great in the sack and fun to be around. Attention to detail means potentially great mother to your kids; also mathematical genes. Downsides: neurotic, probably doesn’t want kids, might be future reformed whore if she’s the attention-seeking kind of artist rather than the shy, retiring, perfectionist kind. Personal favorite: I’m a gambling man. Notable examples: Alma Mahler, the local lyric opera soprano who married a banker.

Immigrant. Not to be confused with the expat, who is inevitably a “reformed” whore. Almost certainly one of the above, but possibly concealing some kind of horrific past which exceeds any of the above. Upside, unless she’s from the angosphere, she’s going to be feminine and lean towards tradwifery. Downside your kids will be psychologically and possibly physically unlike you. Notable example: Melania Trump.

Culture. There’s an old saying that dating an American woman is like dating the last 20 years of television. If she’s Brazilian or a Latina: telenovellas. For younger women it’s that, plus some unholy combination of TikTok and femoid internet subcultures. There are actually women who were not raised by screens: You can find them in home-schooled communities and third world cultures. Most women, like most men, are going to end up some kind of average of their friends and family.

Wives have always been considered burdensome: The modern conception of finding a wife as some kind of towering achievement of adulthood is a product of a century and a half of propaganda and Hollywood romantic comedies. In the good old days before running water and modern dentistry, when you’d actually be getting a trad wife, the father of the bride would literally pay you to take her off his hands. People talk about it being for the support of the woman in case of abandonment or death of the husband, but it was mostly a bribe to offset the inconvenience of having a woman around all the time. Marriage is a burden you take on as price for forming a functioning family. After all, “marrying means to halve one’s rights and double one’s duties” as Schopenhauer put it. Knowing what you’re signing up for and what the drawbacks of actual women existing in the corporeal world seems key to this sort of thing. Women are intelligent enough to be completely unsentimental when it comes to marriage; very few anesthesiologist women marry the garbageman. Men should consider applying normal unsentimental reasoning processes to such undertakings as well.